Aubree Mendez
English 70
08 September 2012
Why Can't this Love be Socially
Accepted?
"Maybe
it was a simple matter of being attracted to what I couldn't have." Why
can't a love be love? Through the eyes of Lily, she sees African Americans as
uneducated and incapable of doing the things a white person can do. In the
novel Lily’s love for Rosaleen, the Boatwright’s and Zach are questioned. Why
can’t this love be socially accepted? Lily sees that society treats African
Americans differently and does not seem to realize that during that particular
time period, it was unacceptable to love someone or people that are no the same
race. Throughout the novel, Lily has grown to understanding the terrible nature
of prejudice. However, as she grows, her love for Rosaleen, Zach, August, May
and June become more than just loves.
In
the novel, Zach and Lily have a relationship that begins as a friendship and
slowly cultivates into one of a more romantic nature. Initially, Lily meets
Zach and is surprised that she is attracted to him, because prior to this
moment black people were unattractive in her eyes. "If he was shocked over
me being white, I was shocked over him being handsome. At my school they made
fun of colored people’s lips and noses. I myself had laughed at these jokes,
hoping to fit in. Now I wished I could pen a letter to my school to read at
opening assembly that would tell them how wrong we'd all been" (116). As
her attraction to Zach gradually grows, she struggles with the thought of
having a relationship with him. "It seems like I was now thinking of Zach
forty minutes out of every hour, Zach, who was an impossibility. That's what I
told myself five hundred times: Impossibility" (133). As the novel
continues, Lily realizes that regardless of what she tries to tell herself, she
cannot prevent herself from loving Zach. Zach wants to create a world where
whites and black will be socially accepted, particularly in a romantic manner.
He says, "We can't think of changing our skin…Change the world, that's how
we gotta think" (216) Lily sees that there is so much more than just skin
color, Zach demonstrates to Lily that he is good, kind and loving and
distinguishes that the world is not only filled with fraudulent and judgmental
people, but with people that have faith and love and want change.
In
The Secret Life of Bees, Lily has a close nit relationship with
Rosaleen, her black housekeeper. Even then she does not consider white and
black people to be equal. In the beginning of the novel, Lily does not accept
to reconcile her love for Rosaleen with her understanding that blacks are
inferior to whites. However, when Rosaleen’s life is threatened by a system
that Lily cannot comprehend, nor agree with, she realizes her next step; she
must save Rosaleen’s life. She understands that she must conquer extreme
measures to protect Rosaleen’s safety, for she has an abundance of love for her
and Lily would never want her safety being jeopardized. Lily and Rosaleen’s
love for each other is endless. Although Rosaleen is African American, she sees
Lily as her very own daughter. She promises to stay by Lily's side no matter
what she encounters.
Lily’s
feelings begin to adjust when she meets the Boatwright’s. The Boatwright’s are
portrayed as strong back women with a profession, an education and a religious
community that is strong and positive. Her perception of black people has
changed because of how intelligent and strong the sisters were. Throughout her
time spent with the Boatwright’s, I do believe that Lily has seen the true side
of love, a love for them that has never been distinguished by her before, a
love for them that will never fade.
I
believe that through Lily's stay at the Boatwright’s her heart has been forever
altered. Zach also had a significant impact on Lily, causing her to realize it
is not about skin color, but about who you truly are. He taught her to listen
to her heart. It should not be a matter of your skin color, or how society portrays
people. If it is wrong in the eyes of the public, but it is right in your
heart, that is all that matters. There should never be boundaries when loving
someone of a different race. One should never be judged when loving. Lily soon
discovers that love is limitless.